What is the Real Secret To Overcoming Jealousy?
Coventry University, UK
In our relationship coaching work with individuals and couples, when the issue of jealousy comes up-- the one question we're asked more than any other is "how do I stop the jealousy?"
When people ask us this, they've got a jealousy problem and most of the time they really know it.
In our own lives we have a terrific relationship but the truth is that one of the things we've had to overcome in order to create this wonderful relationship is the issue of jealousy.
This may surprise you. But, it's true. We've had our own demons to deal with concerning jealousy and we've come through the other side with a truly incredible relationship.
This is one of the reasons we're so passionate about helping people get rid of it.
The important thing for you to understand is that anyone can heal the issue of jealousy-- including you.
So, if anyone like you or these people we just mentioned can truly can heal the issue of jealousy --how do you do it? As amazing as it seems, to get rid of jealousy, it's 99% done if you do just this one thing...
Here's The Most Important Thing You MUST Do In Order To Overcome Jealousy...
We could beat around the bush about it but why don't we just go ahead and tell you about this one thing that by itself will single-handedly determine whether you're able to let go of jealousy or not. We know what you're thinking--that it sounds almost too good to be true that one thing and one thing only will be able to make the difference as to whether you can whip this issue or not but it's true.
So what is it?
This sounds so simple but it's the one thing that almost no one is willing to do to overcome jealousy and create better relationships and a better life.This one thing is-- taking responsibility for having jealousy as an issue and making the commitment to heal the issue no matter what.
You see, many people "say" they want to heal this issue but the sad truth is that almost everyone with the issue of jealousy will do everything but take responsibility for it and make the commitment to healing it.After working with hundreds of individuals and couples to help them overcome jealousy, we can absolutely tell you one thing about overcoming jealousy...
Without taking responsibility for having the issue and making the commitment to healing it--the jealousy will never go away. It will just continue to hurt like pouring salt into an open wound until you make the decision to once and for all do something about it.
Why Most People Don't Heal Their Jealousy and Create Closer and More Loving Relationships Even After Knowing This Important Secret...
There many reasons why people don't heal their jealousy issues even though they can right now and here's one of the biggest reasons of all...
The pain hasn't gotten bad enough.That's right, as crazy as it sounds--for some people the pain simply hasn't gotten bad enough or done enough damage to their relationships for them to finally throw up their hands and say "I've had it" and surrender and finally decide to put an end to their misery.
Another challenge around jealousy that many people have is that they simply don't believe that they can do anything to heal the jealousy. They think of it as sort of a "problem that's just a part of who they are" and think there's nothing they can do about it.
For other people, their self esteem won't allow them to have the love they want and they keep jealousy with them all the time as a wedge between the pain they are experiencing now and what they want for themselves.
There are lots of other reasons why people don't heal the jealousy issues in their lives such as fear of changing, past experiences with partners who have cheated on them and no trust in their current partner.
While there are many reasons why people don't heal the issue of jealousy, the truth is that there are only two things that determine whether you overcome jealousy or not.
We already talked about the fact that taking responsibility for having jealousy as an issue in your life and making the commitment is the big factor in healing it-- on the next page we'll tell you about the other thing you MUST do if you want to overcome jealousy and put it behind you forever.